May 2013
8 posts
Anal Sex Etiquette →
getsuswet:
I was doing some research and found this. I figured it might be able to help some people here. ~Illianna
A personal rare experience...
my-sir:
I just had one of the most interesting, new and sort of eye opening experiences in my D/s life. In the last few days, I just learned a lot about my little side.. my submissive side.. my “me” side.
As a protective little, whenever anyone talks shit about my Sir, I instantly pull out poisoned daggers. To make a complicated intro shorter let’s just say that some people that I care about...
lilmissgoodgirl:
Deciding to come back to reality from His Breaking Bad marathon, He glanced up at the clock and realized it had been 3 and a half hours…..and at least 2 since He’d seen any sign of His little girl. Every now and then she would go off and do her own thing, but He still had a nagging feeling. It wasn’t that often that she didn’t at least check in with Him.
“Kitten!” He summoned...
Books/Articles on BDSM
damagictouch:
I love learning new things. And since I am still in training, I try to find and read books and articles about BDSM and different topics pertaining to the subject matter. If you ever read a book or an article about BDSM (topic examples include pain tolerance, lifestyle differences, views on collared vs owned vs slave, Dom vs Domme, etc) and would like to share the article/book (the...
April 2013
19 posts
Why being a Dom is like being a good manager
subbieblackgrl:
To piggy back off of Friday’s post on why being a sub is a lot like being an employee, I wanted to share why that same analogy could apply to Doms.
When you work for a company, a good manager is all about helping you achieve your professional goals. This year, I have had the opportunity to take on some amazing mentors at work, who have been able to take my conversations,...
Daddy's Playground: Punishments in BDSM... →
dominant-daddy:
I have been asked by many about different ways to punish unruly or misbehaving subs, when a Dominant should punish their sub and when they should be lenient. Every BDSM relationship is different, so remember, thoughts on punishments different greatly from couple to couple. Culture, age, and…
Why being a submissive is like being an employee
subbieblackgrl:
I get a lot of complaints in my message box from Doms who vent to me about their submissives agreeing to serve and then somehow along the way deciding that the relationship needs to go on their own terms. I’ve heard some say that their subs think that if they are ever asked to do things they don’t like or made to be uncomfortable, they get upset. Slowly the relationship begins...
DirtyBlackFuckDoll: How Daddy Likes It. →
dirtyblackfuckdoll:
I rushed to do some last minute cleaning before Daddy got home. I was supposed to be waiting in the bedroom sitting on my hands before he got in from work, and everything was to be spotless. I had spent all afternoon enjoying my quiet time and lost track of the hour. The place was still a mess…
Submission is NOT a gift.
siratticus:
Found this on the interwebs the other day and it definitely resonated with me. What do you think?
Yes, a submissive may feel that submitting to her dominant is like giving him the precious gift of her will, of her, to command and to use. Especially since she will not submit to just anybody, but to that one, special person that has proven to be worthy of that gift.
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More Grundyism in the Inbox
bmcmfm:
Because just one message wasn’t enough, the kink-phobic, racist, sex-negative anonymouse is back!
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Not Role play. Just me.: I was asked today if I... →
subbieblackgrl:
I think the problem is that many people think that “the lifestyle” refers to sex when it really does refer to a lifestyle.
My agreement to be a submissive is any every day thing. It’s not something that switches off and on. Regardless of what the activity is, I am still the sub.
Say there is a…
So I'm kinky, now what?
subbieblackgrl:
I often get questions about the best way to get into the lifestyle. Once people are aware of their kinky desires, they are in a rush to try them out. Doms looking for subs, subs looking for Doms and kinky folks just wanting to be kinky…everyone is in a rush to play. Here are some ideas on where to start:
1) Alternative lifestyle sites: There are many. You can try...
What kind of Little are you? →
choklatecoveredcherry:
What kind of Little are you?
My Result: Schoolgirl(86%)
You are Daddy’s little Schoolgirl!!!!! You’re such a smarty pants but your Daddy can’t help but drool over how brilliant you look in your little uniform.
Additional Results:
Schoolgirl (86%)
Pumpkin (29%)
Princess (29%)
Angel (14%)
Brat (14%)
Visit: What kind of Little are you?
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10 things a Dominant needs from a submissive
The best way I’ve heard...”
– Kenova - http://kenovasir.blogspot.co.uk/ - Found on Fetlife (via an-otherside-ofme)
ALL SUBS NEED TO READ THIS!!
I have great trouble with the consistency due to my very erratic and drastic anxiety/depression. I know it’s something I need to work on and it’s hard but at least I know that thats...
Pick the right match
subbieblackgrl:
I often talk to Doms who are frustrated because the woman they thought was all into D/s was in fact only into the kink…and only sometimes. They wonder how their dutiful submissive “regressed” back into being the vanilla girl she was when they started dating. They can’t understand how she is ok with being spanked and fucked dizzy, but doesn’t want to prepare a meal.
...
Ways to serve the right one
subbieblackgrl:
This post will sort of piggy-back on yesterday’s Need to Serve post, but a little more about the ways that a submissive can serve. Again, my desire to serve is more than a want, it’s a need…a compulsion. Although every man doesn’t bring out that desire, it’s always there.
I think that so many people believe that because I am a submissive, any man who walks my way makes me...
March 2013
22 posts
yourgoodgirl:
One Daddy Still Looking for One BabyGirl
siratticus:
daddylookingforhisbaby:
I came across this article, which I found interesting and informative. Again, you may or may agree with it. Take what you find useful and possibly apply it in your daily lives.
A newbie asked if it was better to begin exploring with someone with no experience/outside of the Lifestyle community, or...
The Rules
danger-and-play:
Posted for reference.
1. I am your Daddy Dominant. You are my little girl. You belong to me and only me. You must listen to your Daddy, complete my tasks, and follow my rules, above all else, be a good girl. As long as you have my collar, you agree to follow these Rules. Breaking these Rules will result in discipline, including being grounded from friends, Tumblr/Fetlife and...
Your relationship cannot be your everything
subbieblackgrl:
As a submissive, many times we elevate our Doms to nearly immortal status. We worship them as if they are without fault, are unable to make mistakes and are the be all and end all of our existence. As important as it is for a submissive to be devoted and loving to her Dominant, I must say that this is not a healthy attachment.
Conversely, I have seen Doms do the same thing....
It's BDSM, not magic. Have realistic...
subbieblackgrl:
When Doms and subs are new and discovering their true natures, I find that many of them have idealistic, grandiose ideas of what their relationship is going to be like. I think that these unrealistic expectations cause many potentially good relationships to have a lot of tension where there shouldn’t be any, and even cause them to fail. This does not have to be the case.
For...
Presenting for inspection
subbieblackgrl:
I just read a post about this which made me realize that I haven’t been made to do this in a while.
I must say that being inspected makes me feel incredibly vulnerable, sexy, and humiliated all at the same time.
The first time I presented for Daddy, I was naked in heels with my hands behind my head.
He walked circles around me…looking me up and down. He cupped my breasts and...
Thoughts on Limits and pushing them
justanothersub:
subbieblackgrl:
First off, let me say that I think limits are important in that they create a guideline for a Dom to follow and a safety net for the sub. I think that ESPECIALLY in situations where the Dom and sub are just play-partners, limits are even more important. If I’m meeting a guy for a session every few weeks and we’re not in a relationship, he should definitely...
Rated R - How to properly play on skype.
slavechat:
musingsofanawkwardblackgirl:
If you are under the age of 18, scroll away from this post because ain’t no body got time for you. Go find a Barbie doll or a GI-Joe and play with that, because y’all ain’t old enough to play with someone else.
For the love of Buddha, don’t judge me. A friend was telling me about a friend of his who he had suggested skype sex too, but didn’t know how...
Experience is the best teacher.
siratticus:
Summer of ‘02 was the time it took place.
I lost my virginity on the last day of school. Literally, the last day. I had asked this girl out about a week before and she convinced me it was a good idea to cut that day, we went to her house and she unceremoniously rode me into manhood. Needless to say, I was a happy 16 year old.
Funny thing was,
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Best Weekend Ever Pt 2: Purple Dress
damagictouch:
“Violet, did you actually walk down the hall like that?”
That was all Dean could say as He kept staring at me and my visible cheetah print panties. I had left the hotel room to get some ice when my purple dress just started to rise up. By the time I was done, it had rolled all the way up to my navel. I could have pulled it down anytime I wanted to, but I wanted to feel so dirty...
The Dean is in: Best Weekend Ever Pt 1: The Ripple... →
damagictouch:
“Violet, where is that purple dress that you had on a while back?”
“It’s in my closet Dean.”
“Good. Pack it up along with some other clothes in a bag. We’re heading to a hotel right now.”
At first I thought He was kidding, due to the fact that we were already settled in my room. But He…
Questions Questions Questions
damagictouch:
Violet is going to be on my blog till 12am. So if you have any questions that you want to ask her, now is the time to ask before it is too late.
~Dean
Defiant.
theboardingschool:
“Times up. Pencils down.”
I sighed softly as I place my pen down. It was bad enough that I had gotten detention for 7 tardies in a row…but my mouth kept me there and made me right constantly. I rubbed the cramped out of my hand softly, perfectly french manicured fingers stretching, small hands making a fist in order for my hand to feel normal again.
He stared at me the...
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Defiant.
“Times up. Pencils down.”
I sighed softly as I place my pen down. It was bad enough that I had gotten detention for 7 tardies in a row…but my mouth kept me there and made me right constantly. I rubbed the cramped out of my hand softly, perfectly french manicured fingers stretching, small hands making a fist in order for my hand to feel normal again.
He stared at me the whole time while I did...
February 2013
19 posts
Good Girl.
choklatecoveredcherry:
“That’s a good girl.”
Those words can send me over the edge.
Those words make me want to please you even more.
I want to be a good girl. I want to let you know how much pleasing you…
pleases me.
Letting you see, letting you control. The thought of it makes me wet, makes my thighs clench, makes my mouth water.
And I’m starting to realize….
You’re the only...