“Submission is a gift,” is something I’ve often heard. My friend Lili and I would roll our eyes when we would hear that metaphor, “Oh, she’s one of ‘those’ girls. “ We both agreed that the kind of women and men that thought of SAAG (submission as a gift) were a bit soft…
Is your submission worth something? It is something you’re not compelled to give to everyone, but if it has no worth then why would someone care if you felt compelled to submit to them? I think this is perhaps why people consider it a gift.
A gift isn’t something to be earned. A gift is simply given with no return gesture expected. It also isn’t meant to be taken back. If I end a relationship, am I an indian giver? Or do I just conjure up a new gift for every partner I have?
Just not a fan of that metaphor.