PHARAOH: Something as of late that has been vexing me.

pharaohn:

Pretend subs.

Those subs who see the pictures or read the story’s and instantly think that’s what they want. Then they get themselves a Dom and quickly realize that being a sub isn’t as easy as they thought it was. They find out that it’s more than just a game, It’s a lifestyle.

That being said…

I’ve tried… to restrain myself from commenting on things like this. I’ve seen things all over the place on various blogs. Both men and women. Subs and doms. Daddies and littles. It seems that no matter what subset of the “lifestyle” this idea is ever apparent. I honestly try hard to restrain myself from putting out my opinions because they never really seem to fall well on other ears. I am however… offended? disturbed? perturbed? confused? as to why this sentiment is so prolific on all these blogs I tend to otherwise like.

What is it to pretend that you like something? Is it that you have only explored a little, and have a small inkling of what you like? Is it that you find yourself skirting along the edges of what other delve headlong into? So what if some people tend to over exaggerate, and call out safe words too much. Or so what if someone doesn’t like to lick milk out of a bowl, or have no experience within the lifestyle? So what if someone chooses not to let their defining point be that they are in a relationship where a power dynamic comes into play? I admit, I am probably being naive. I am probably speaking from a position where experience has yet to be my cruel mistress. My agitation over this idea that others can label you as a faker or a true practitioner has rubbed me quite the wrong way. I suppose that I just thought… people have a hard enough time trying to get by. Trying to feel like what they love and enjoy and makes them happy, is alright. Why should we shame people? Don’t fall back on “it gives people the wrong impression” or “brings a bad name to the community” because those are ridiculous. It’s like those people who say that gay marriage will break apart the value of traditional marriages. No. That’s simply not the case. Logic begs that if someone were silly enough to buy into the propaganda put forth by silly people who you might call a “poser” or “faker” that they would believe anything. Truth is far too subjective, and people far to delicate for this idea to be perpetuated any further. It’s part of the reason I always too afraid to try to become part of a group or community. Stop painting in such stark contrasts and learn there is grace and acceptance in uncertainties and shades of grays.

(via fireinzerogravity)